Lessons from a Room Full of Brave Women

Today, I joined a Sala Session—an intimate gathering where women leaders come together to reflect, share, and hold space for one another. The topic of the day: Impostor Syndrome, guided by the insightful Dar Ty-Nilo, founder of Belle de Jour Planners.

It was one of those conversations that stay with you long after the event ends.

Even Winners Get Wounded

There was a moment in Dar’s talk when she said:“Even winners get wounded in a fight.”

That line struck something deep in me.

We often think that once we become “successful,” the self-doubt will disappear. But the truth is—even those who lead, build, and show up for others wrestle with inner critics too. Being wounded doesn’t mean we’re weak. It means we’re in the arena.

And that’s where the real growth happens.

Impostor Syndrome as a Signal

Dar offered a reframe I really appreciated:Impostor Syndrome is not necessarily something to fix or overcome. Instead, it can be a signal—a sign that we’re stretching, expanding, stepping into new terrain. It’s asking us to go deeper into the choices we’ve already made. To commit.

Sometimes we interpret doubt as a sign we’re on the wrong path. But what if it’s simply asking us to show up more fully?

You Are Enough

There was also a reminder I needed to hear, and I think many of us do:

We don’t need to be more. We don’t need to do more.

Who we are right now is enough.

In a world that constantly pushes us to hustle, produce, and prove, this truth can feel almost radical. But it’s grounding. It allows us to soften and return to ourselves.

How Reiki Helps Me Stay Grounded

My Reiki practice has become one of the most essential tools in navigating these moments of doubt. It invites me into presence. When things feel overwhelming or unclear, Reiki helps me listen—not just to my thoughts, but to what my body and energy are saying.

It’s how I hold space for myself.

To sit with discomfort. To not rush to fix. To honor the process.

And every time I come back to the practice, I’m reminded that healing isn’t just something I offer others—it’s something I continually offer myself.

The Power of Support

While inner work matters, I’ve learned that we don’t have to go through it alone. In fact, we’re not meant to.

I’m deeply grateful for the people in my life who remind me of my worth when I forget—my family, my friends, my soul circle. They see me, steady me, and make space for me to be real.

Especially in the messy, vulnerable moments.

To each of you: thank you.

What I’m Taking With Me

Impostor Syndrome may not fully disappear—and maybe that’s okay. With self-awareness, healing practices, and a strong support system, we can learn to meet it with compassion instead of fear.

And if today reminded me of anything, it’s this:

We’re not alone in our doubt. And we’re never as lost as we think.

Impostor syndrome?

The event was at the pretty Penthouse of KMC Armstrong. A room full of women founders and leaders. And grateful to attend it with my dear friend, Joanne.